Change your life – is it too late?

change your life (choose not to catch the ball)

I have been a therapist and coach for over 6 years at the time of writing this. I have lost count of the number of people I have helped over that time. Even so, I still get excited when a new client enters my office for the first time. As you can imagine, when you want to change your life, I am curious to know what challenges you are facing. I look forward to exploring clients, the aspects of your lives that you want to change. I love to learn what you hope to achieve.

When is the best time to change your life?

It’s true that many clients are around the 40 or 50 year-old mark. It may be that they are experiencing shifts in their lives. Their young family has grown up, or they may be questioning their careers or their lifestyle choices.

Relationships may have been built on the basis of creating a home, raising children and moving up the career ladder. In later life things can start to become muddled, strained and lose a sense of purpose as those things are achieved. Equally things may not have panned out quite the way you planned. Here is a list of just a few of the unexpected problems life raises:

  • your children are grown up but still living with you. They may be struggling to find their purpose.
  • the children have flown the nest and there seems to be nothing more for you to do;
  • the job you thought you would be doing for the rest of your life is now uninspiring, or irrelevant;
  • your relationship with your partner or spouse has deteriorated and it is difficult to find the love you once felt;
  • you are financially successful but somehow that makes you worry more about security and keeping things going.

The list is endless, and every person’s situation is different.

Maybe you have no choice, but to change your life.

Wherever you are in life, and whatever it seems to be throwing at you, you can choose to keep catching the ball, or play a different game. Usually when we feel we have few choices, it really means that we have BIG choices and we avoiding making them.

One of those choices is to have things continue to be the same as they always have been. It’s perfectly valid, and making it gives you the power to own your problems, but it is NEVER the only choice.

My oldest client so far was 86, and my youngest is just 8.

It’s never too late to change your life, and it’s never too early either!

Robert Sanders is a therapist and life coach, supporting people in their present and helping them create their future.

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