An article in the Telegraph today suggests that ‘growing numbers of forty-somethings are embarking on a series of intense but ultimately short-lived relationships’. The theory seems to apply equally to men and women. The psychologist responsible for the analysis a Voula Grand suggests that these people may be finding new partners on the internet after failed first marriages and then rushing very quickly into ‘rebound’ marriages which they soon regret.
It appears to be that although the number of people divorcing is in decline overall, the trend is slower in those over 45. It seems a bit of a leap to assume that this has anything particular to do with internet dating, and a part of me wants to say ‘so what if it is’. I’m not sure what they are trying to prove here.
Midlife is a challenging time for us. We can put it down to chemical and biological changes, a sudden intimation of our own mortality, or something else. It is a time when you can feel you have lost your way, and it seems to me that society has failed to offer any significant support.Read more »