Metaprograms: How big are your chunks?

In the last blog I visited the concept of ‘metaprograms’ – the general approaches to life that influence our view of the world and affect the success of our choices and outcomes, both positively and negatively. There are no ‘wrong’ metaprograms, and they are preferences rather than hard and fast rules. So in the last example, having a preference for a ‘toward’ metaprogram, or an ‘away from’ metaprogram each has their own benefits and disadvantages.

Another metaprogram that can have a significant effect on your world view is ‘chunk-size’.Read more »

By Robert Sanders Posted on 19/03/2018

Tagged with: awareness, Coaching, communication, goals, neurolinguistic programming, NLP, Questions, Success

Metaprograms: Are you an away from or a towards person?

towards/away from Is your map of the world (see my blog “I finally get getting there”) a generally positive one, or typically erring on the side of negativity?

How we respond to our world, as I’ve said many times before, can totally colour our view of life. Two people viewing the same event can have completely different experiences and interpretations, based on how they filter the information they receive through their senses. There are a range of these filters available to us. For instance we may filter our experience to favour certain senses – focusing on the visual, or on the sounds that are present. We may filter through our values – we may judge easy going people more harshly, for example if one of our highest values is consistency, or achievement.Read more »

By Robert Sanders Posted on 18/02/2018

Tagged with: anxiety, awareness, communication, goals, metaprograms, motivation, NLP, optimism

5 stage-fright re-frames to shift your focus

man singing on stage Stage-fright on some level, is pretty much a given with many of the performers and speakers that I work with.

On one level it is completely understandable. Few of us like the idea of standing up there in front of an audience of hundreds, maybe even thousands and singing, dancing or even just speaking.

At the same time, many of my clients are hugely talented people.As one successful client put it ‘I beat myself up over being so nervous. I should be used to it by now.’

The thing that frustrates many performers is that they know that having this fear over performing can mean that they actually perform less well. Read more »

By Robert Sanders Posted on 12/06/2017

Tagged with: actor, anxiety, beliefs, celebrities, celebrity, Coaching, communication, Confidence, fear, habits, interview, musician, nerves, NLP, panic, performance anxiety, phobia, presentation, public speaking, singer, stage-fright

Weightloss. Do we interrupt the mind body conversation?

There can be many ways in which we can be uncomfortable about our bodies. The most common, perhaps, is when we become aware that we are not that particular size, or weight that we ‘should’ be.

That ‘should be’ can come from lots of sources. It may be a standard we believe is set by our society, our friends, the media. It could be a measure our parents have handed down to us, unintentionally or intentionally, by trying to manage our food intake – ‘don’t eat too many cakes or you’ll get fat’.

You may be someone who has experienced those patterns of putting on the pounds and then intensively dieting and exercising to lose them again, only to find that a few months later you are back where you started or worse! Alternatively you may have just always been ‘big’ in comparison to others and feel that there is nothing you can do about it.

By Robert Sanders Posted on 08/03/2017

Tagged with: communication, gastric band, healthy eating, mind-body, neurolinguistic programming, NLP, weight, weight loss

4 simple Christmas gifts that cost nothing and mean everything

Christmas gifts Christmas is about giving. It is easy to forget that when you look at the advertising of some commercial companies that suggest you ‘treat yourself for Christmas’.
I’m sure that Christmas is not about treating yourself. If you want to really make a difference this Christmas, buy some thoughtful presents, send beautiful cards, and try some of these subtler and more selfless gifts too:Read more »

By Robert Sanders Posted on 05/12/2016

Tagged with: Christmas, communication, Gratitude

Improve your relationship with one simple question.

Sometimes when you meet a person for the very first time it can really feel like you are a great match. As you improve your relationship you may notice how much you have in common. You:

like the same films
come from the same town
have the same dark sense of humour
both like running, or knitting, or bottle collecting, …etc

It’s a frequent pattern in forming relationships that we delight in our connections and our similarities. There will be many differences to add excitement, interest and imagination to the mix of course. In many relationships the focus is still on how similar, or how in tune we are.

As you get to know that person better you begin to realise that while there are many things about them that match your own experience, there are many significant differences at a deeper level.Read more »

By Robert Sanders Posted on 11/05/2015

Tagged with: communication, love, love strategies, NLP, relationship, strategies

Tag: communication