Your unconscious mind. What is the point?

your unconscious mind brain with words based on the unconscious and what it does

When you hear professionals, such as hypnotherapists and Neurolingistic Programming (NLP) experts talk about your unconscious mind, you can be forgiven for glazing over a little. What exactly is the unconscious mind? What’s the difference between that and the subconscious? What does it do and why does it do it?

Therapists and the like may naturally put great emphasis on the importance of understanding why we do things and understanding our unconscious. For many though, the bigger question could be ‘what is the point of an unconscious mind in the first place? If it creates so many problems for us, through creating phobias, anxiety, OCD and so forth, wouldn’t we be better off without it?’

By Robert Sanders Posted on 16/09/2019

Discover your passion. 3 ways to find out what you love.

discover your passion - heart with a jigsaw piece missing

Passion is a big word that suggests something overpowering, uncontrollable and visceral. When we say we want to discover our passion, the word asks us to connect to our deepest selves. Many people are able to say what their passion is. Their deepest interests, their hobbies, their careers and the people that are around them.

A significant number of people that come to see me, have far less clarity about what their passion and want me to help them discover their passion for themselves.

By Robert Sanders Posted on 15/07/2019

Tagged with: Coaching, discover your passion, find my passion, life coaching, NLP, passion, purpose, Values

Anxiety and risk, the wet floor sign dilemma

wet floor sign as a metaphor for anxiety response

Have you ever tripped over a wet floor sign? I know I have. I guess I need to pay more attention to where I am going. I do think I have tripped over more wet floor signs than I have ever slipped on wet floors.

Really, there ought to be a sign – to warn you about the sign. A ‘caution wet floor sign’ sign!

Now there’s an idea for a new product.

By Robert Sanders Posted on 14/05/2019

Tagged with: anxiety, fear, subconscious, unconscious, unconscious mind, worry

Guilt, regret and shame: can NLP help you deal with unhelpful emotions?

Dealing with guilt, regret or shame using NLP or Timeline Therapy can be very helpful in enabling you to move on in life.

All of us, at one time or another, have had moments where we have made choices that we have later had cause to regret. Guilt for doing something, or failing to do something seems inevitable and can cause us great unhappiness and pain.

By Robert Sanders Posted on 23/08/2018

Tagged with: Emotions, guilt, neurolinguistic programming, NLP, regret, shame, timeline therapy

5 things that may help with anger issues

anger issues - a picture of the incredible hulk Anger issues are among the most common themes that come up when working with neurolinguistic programming (NLP) clients. Often when I meet someone for the first time, clients will be concerned that they are having angry outbursts or feel pent-up feelings of anger. They can’t understand why this is happening. Small things, which you would not normally find more than slightly irritating, take on an inappropriate level of emotion. The tendency to lose your temper can lead to difficulties in your relationships, social life, and also at work. Clients have found themselves Read more »

By Robert Sanders Posted on 23/05/2018

Tagged with: anger, anger issues, anger management, awareness, Coaching, hypnosis, hypnotherapy, neurolinguistic programming, NLP, relationships, timeline therapy

How financially abundant are you?

various amounts of money What sort of income do you have currently? How comfortable are you right now with how much you earn? Which of these statements fits you best?

I’ve got plenty of money to get everything I need, there’s no desperate need to improve my wealth;
I’m generally comfortable, so long as there are no unexpected crises, and even then we could probably weather the storm through savings and temporary cutbacks;
I am constantly on a treadmill, there always seems to be more going out than coming in. I need to make more money.
I just can’t make ends meet and I’m spiralling into debt.

These are broad descriptions, and I bet you can recognise yourself in one of them. Working with clients I find that individually they can be on any one of these descriptors. For some of them, money, and the lack of it, is one of their main issues. For others it is the thing that is lowest down their priorities. Money doesn’t make happiness, that’s for certain.

The interesting thing is that the actual ‘amount’ of money that clients have or earn doesn’t necessarily relate to where they are on this scale.Read more »

By Robert Sanders Posted on 08/05/2017

Tagged with: abundance, beliefs, finance, goals, law of attraction, money, motivation, neurolinguistic programming, NLP, stress, timeline therapy

First questions you should ask yourself if you want to change now

When you first enter my office in Haywards Heath I always ask you two important questions.

Whether you are seeing me for a free appointment, or an intensive one-day breakthrough session, or even if you have begun a series of regular sessions, the first is:

‘Why are you here?’.

It’s not a surprising question in itself, and probably likely to glean more useful information to me as a therapist and coach than ‘What’s your shoe size?’

Usually, though not always, my client will tell me Read more »

By Robert Sanders Posted on 28/09/2016

Tagged with: anxiety, Coaching, Confidence, exam, NLP, Questions, weight-loss

What stops you getting the help you need?

I was talking to a friend the other day – let’s call him Jim. He’s always asking me about what I do and seems really interested in the coaching and hypnotherapy. He’s even begun to pick up a few books on neurolinguistic programming (NLP).

Jim’s a mechanic by trade – something he fell into by chance after leaving school and has been doing ever since – for twenty-three years, in fact. He’s also a great guitarist and an amazing cook. Not that he would agree with that appraisal because one of Jim’s issues is his confidence and self-belief. That’s also why he is still a mechanic I suspect. Because he ‘believes’ that is the only thing he can do and he’s ‘confident’ doing it.

But on the other hand, like so many of us, he knows that there can be so much more.

Just not yet.
Read more »

By Robert Sanders Posted on 01/07/2015

A quantum ramble

It’s become a bit of a habit to pop out on a Saturday morning for a cup of coffee, and sometimes that also means I have a moment to write my blog.
This morning is a particularly inspiring one because the sun is shining brilliantly. It’s cool but definitely going to warm up in time for Kelly’s wedding. My friend Kelly is getting married to the love of her life, Dan, today. It sounds like a wonderful affair, set in Brighton, with a bus for the guests and a whole lot of fun to be had.
On Thursday, I sent her my best wishes and promised her that we would have sun for the day, and I was right. I didn’t doubt it for a minute. I have always had direct control over the weather – (yes folks, it’s my fault).
The thing is, so does everybody.Read more »

By Robert Sanders Posted on 25/05/2013

Tagged with: law of attraction, quantum theory

Yule love this client case study!

One of the things I love about working as a life coach and therapist is the wonderful variety of people I meet. A key presupposition in my work is that ‘everybody is doing the best they can with the resources they have available’.

From this perspective it becomes so much easier to relate and sympathise with clients whatever their problem.

Take a case I dealt with a few years ago. Naturally I have given the client a fictitious name to protect his identity:

Case Study: Stephen Nicklaus – Father

When Stephen came to me, he was in a rut.

By Robert Sanders Posted on 09/12/2012

Tagged with: case study, Christmas, ecology, funny, humour, NLP, timeline therapy, Yule

Category: Timeline Therapy

‘Why are you here?’.