Green traffic lightI was talking to a friend the other day – let’s call him Jim.  He’s always asking me about what I do and seems really interested in the coaching and hypnotherapy. He’s even begun to pick up a few books on neurolinguistic programming (NLP).

Jim’s a mechanic by trade – something he fell into by chance after leaving school and has been doing ever since – for twenty-three years, in fact. He’s also a great guitarist and an amazing cook.  Not that he would agree with that appraisal because one of Jim’s issues is his confidence and self-belief. That’s also why he is still a mechanic I suspect.  Because he ‘believes’ that is the only thing he can do and he’s ‘confident’ doing it.

But on the other hand, like so many of us, he knows that there can be so much more.

Just not yet.
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ISpaniel looking into a river after a ball was looking out of my window the other day watching the Summer rain when my neighbour came out.  She was wrapped up well against some very blustery weather with her wellies on, ready to brave a walk with her two dogs. She has a beautiful, elegant Deerhound and an energetic and loveable Spaniel.

Watching the two dogs with their owner, they could not have been more different from each other,

The Spaniel is a bundle of energy and Read more »

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I have to confess that I am an avid watcher of ‘I’m a celebrity, get me out of here.’ I have tired of most reality TV and in fact most television, but I do enjoy this programne. It’s partly the witty chat of Ant and Dec but it’s also my general fascination with people and the way they think and behave.
As usual the ‘celebrities’ are mostly relatively unknown to all but a few of us, but certainly many of a certain generation will remember Edwina Currie the politician. Not so well known is her erstwhile arch rival Kendra Wilkinson. The two could not be more different. Edwina is a 68 year-old woman, highly educated and respected by many, with high moral standards and a razor-sharp mind. Kendra is 29, an ex-resident of the Playboy Mansion, with a high-school education and a modelling and television career.
In the show the two crossed swords over Kendra’s apparent ‘only think of yourself’ philosophy. Read more »

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Do you ever get up in the morning and think ‘It’s going to be one of those days? Maybe you put the toast in the toaster, pressed it down and the fuse blows.  Or you are about to leave for work and suddenly realise you have put your top on inside out.  You think ‘Everything is going wrong.  Maybe I should just go back to bed before things get worse.’

But you decide to stick it out and you set off for work.  You find a good parking space and so have time to pop to the coffee shop before you go in to the office.  Bonus! The staff in the coffee shop are slow though and you get more and more anxious that you are going to be late.  You order a filter coffee in the end because it’s quick and then you have to dash to the office and in the process splash coffee over yourself.Read more »

There are an expanding number of products, programmes and processes on the market which seek in various ways to ‘detox’ your body. I think the idea of purging your body of toxins from time-to-time is probably very sound. We are exposed in so many ways on a daily basis, to a bubbling cauldron of mysterious chemicals, hormones, and other substances. Sometimes we just need to give our bodies a good clean-out:

  • eat only fruit and vegetable
  • drink green tea
  • exfoliate
  • exercise
  • sauna

These are just a few popular ways people choose to do this.
What if we were to do the same thing to our minds? Maybe we should even be thinking about the mental detox first. With a clear, clean mind we are in the right place mentally to embrace the same process in our bodies.Read more »

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It’s become a bit of a habit to pop out on a Saturday morning for a cup of coffee, and sometimes that also means I have a moment to write my blog.
This morning is a particularly inspiring one because the sun is shining brilliantly. It’s cool but definitely going to warm up in time for Kelly’s wedding. My friend Kelly is getting married to the love of her life, Dan, today. It sounds like a wonderful affair, set in Brighton, with a bus for the guests and a whole lot of fun to be had.
On Thursday, I sent her my best wishes and promised her that we would have sun for the day, and I was right. I didn’t doubt it for a minute. I have always had direct control over the weather – (yes folks, it’s my fault).
The thing is, so does everybody.Read more »

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One of the most common reasons that people turn to hypnotherapists for help is to lose weight. Celebrities like Lily Allen have made dramatic changes to their appearance through hypnosis. The internet is full of their success stories.
I think people recognise that inevitably, no matter how easy an eating plan is advertised to be, ultimately only motivation and commitment will enable you to stick to it. There are thousands of diets out there for those who are uncomfortable with the way they look. There are the big slimming clubs like Weight Watchers and Slimming World. There are hundreds of book-based diets like Atkins and the G-plan, and there are quirky diets like the ‘cabbage soup’ diet.
If I was being cynical I would begin to wonder if pretty much any diet, whether based on science or otherwise will help some people lose weight.Read more »

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For most of us, success in life is elusive.
In the busy day-to-day battle between chaos and the mundane, it is difficult to spend more than a few moments sometimes dreaming of what success would look like.
But that’s exactly what we need to do.
Every day.
Our dreams are where we start from in life, and if we continue to dream, they are also where we end up. As the song goes, ‘don’t dream it, be it’.
Different people have very different ideas about what they want to be, to have and to do. For some, success is about big money, fast cars and a beautiful home. For others it may be less concrete – a contented life, happiness, peace. We are our own judges on such things.Read more »

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